Today is our anniversary that marks five years of marriage, and although we don't know everything, we have definitely learned a thing or two over the years. When we get into a relationship, we tend to think that we know everything about ourselves and our future (or current) significant other, just to suddenly realize that we most likely do not have it all figured out. Marriage is just like a plant; it needs a healthy environment to grow and last.
So today I wanted to share with you some simple things that I have learned that could help you have a healthy relationship and be happy with your spouse. Also, feel free to share your tips as well. Like I said, we have so much more to learn and I would love to hear from you!!
Go on Date Nights.
Just because you are married, does not mean you should stop dating one another. Make the time to have fun, create memories, and connect. Do not blame your budget either. Dating does not take money, but it does take a commitment to the time for one another. Ask open-ended questions, spark conversation, and dream big with one another during these times. It will keep your journey together enriching.
Communicate Often.
Your spouse is not a mind-reader, and as much as your spouse "knows you", constant communication helps you two stay on the same page.
Find a Win-Win Solution.
Stop spending your time trying to find out who is right and who is wrong in the conversation or situation. And stop trying to "win" the disagreement. This only results in disaster for one person or both. Rather, take the time and find a win-win solution that works best for both of you. This also many result in sacrificing something on both sides to meet in the middle. Sure there is also the option of A or B, but there are usually also options C through Z to consider.
Kiss Often.
Connection matters. Kissing actually produces the hormone that makes you feel good -- Oxytocin. This hormone creates the environment for trust, connection, respect, safety and love.
Forgive Always.
We have had some knock out fights (not literally of course), but one thing we have increasing gotten better is forgiving and forgiving aloud. Forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling. And because nobody is perfect, forgiveness is required in all sorts of relationships; however, in your marriage it is especially important. Forgive so you are not filled with resentment and bitterness, and do so aloud so your spouse knows what is going on in your head.
Like I said, there is so much more that we can learn, so feel free to share your tips as well. Marriage is so sacred and important. Let's stand in this together!
