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My Goals for 2018: How I Plan to Nourish My Life

Picking “a word to 2018” isn’t just about doing it and never looking back. It’s about planning, goal setting, and following up on progress. I have learned a lot about goal setting and little-by-little progression, and maybe I will try and share that one day, but today I wanted to just share a bit on my 2018 goals and how I plan to nourish my life in the year going forward.

I have spent a ton of time on these and although I am sure they will alter and adjust throughout the year as our family grows and molds into something new with the addition of our little girl in March, I can confidently say that this is some good goals to cultivate what matters for me in the coming year.

It is not about perfection, but progression. And honestly, this is going to shock you coming from me (especially if you know me personally), it is not about completion, but cultivation. It is not a checklist but something to always grow in grace.

1. BE A GOOD STEWARD OF OUR FINANCES.

We have been learned a lot over the years about our finances and how our backgrounds and upbringings have taught us about communication around money. We can budget and have finance meetings until we are blue in the face; however, at the end of the day, we are still the typical American family that has too much student loan debt. We are determined to figure it out. Along with that, we know that adding a new baby into the mix adds pressure on our pocketbooks. We are starting the Dave Ramsey’s Financial Freedom classes at the end of the month to educate ourselves even further on the matter and we cannot be more excited about it. I know this will make a huge impact on the things we want to invest in in the future and can also reduce our need to work more if we are simply saving more.

2. PRIORIZE SELF-CARE OVER ACCOMPLISHMENTS AND EXPECTATIONS.

This is directly in line with my word for the year. I want to nourish my own soul, body, and mind. I do not feel like I can give well if my spirit is not being filled as well. I need to step back, say “no” more and devote time to myself.

3. BUILD UP PERSONAL ENDEAVORS.

This is really referring to you all. My blog and my Young Living business. Over the past year, I have strayed in and out of a regular routine of writing, started (and stopped) a t-shirt business, invested heavily on educating myself around essential oils, crafted for the sole purpose of selling, and many other things. It has caused a lack of direction and focus. More so, it does not allow me to focus deeply on one thing and watch it grow. I know that to help with our finances, we will need to bring in some extra income and although I never want to blog only to produce a financial gain, I want to be honest with you as well. Part of successful blogging involves compensation, and if I can focus on this and educating others around oils, we are praying that we will be blessed in these areas.

4. NOURISH MY SOUL TOWARD A MORE OBEDIENT LIFESTYLE.

This really speaks back again to my word of the year, with a focus on health and nutrition. Work outs need to find root as we add another baby into our family and I want to be strong throughout my pregnancy and postpartum journey. Additionally, this highlights the need to dive deeply in His Word, study more, read more, listen more. The regular routine of this I believe is key as we create new habits for nourishment.

5. INVEST IN OUR MARRIAGE.

Dusty and I have learned a lot about our marriage in the past 5 years; and one thing is for sure, we need time together. The more time we spend together, the better we communicate and function like a team. When Ollie was born, we were in a great routine of date nights, family days, “get-stuff-done” days, sabbaths, etc. All of these days helped us thrive throughout the week. However, it has been really clear that 2017 did not always include these things and have added stress and anxiety to our marriage. We want to take a step back, invest in our marriage more, and understand when it is important to do so.

6. FIND ROOT IN OUR COMMUNITY.

We have spent the past three years attending a church a few towns away. We love our church community and friendships that have formed through it. Thankfully though, we have landed on hosting a local community in our home for the past several months now on a weekly basis from that church. Folks that all travel 20 minutes on Sunday morning, but live their day-to-day lives in the surrounding neighborhoods. Because of this, it is now time for us to take more root in our hometown and local events. We have spent months and months traveling to other town’s festivals, parades, and concerts to be present in somebody else’s community and we cannot wait to see what it looks like to take root in our own.

7. MOLD INTO A FAMILY OF FOUR.

This is the one that is so unclear to me because I just do not know what it looks like. How do we continue to invest in our own nourishment while raising a toddler and a newborn? How do we flourish in our marriage when two littles need us so much? I know the answer will come with the birth of our baby girl, but there is so many unanswered questions.

8. DISCOVER TWO NEW LIVING-GIVING FRIENDSHIPS.

Again, I do not know what this looks like at all. I have failed in the friendship department the last few years. I have tried to connect with ladies that on paper should be my friends because of social communities or expectancies. These ladies are great but their lives are in another community, each living too far away to just “drop by” on a weekly basis. Their jobs are different, allowing them to enjoy Wednesday morning brunch while I’m sitting in my home office working. They see each other at the grocery store and the library and make Friday night movie plans. And here I am, trying with all of my effort to connect, but falling short. I do not say this to talk badly about any of them, because I honestly LOVE these girls; however, I need a few friendships that give me life, do not give me a false sense of deep connection and then allow me to feel disappoint. I, unfortunately, have put some real friends on the back burner thinking that the friendships I was investing in would replace, and it hasn’t. So, I am praying about who God wanted me to invest in in 2018 and felt Him leading me to 2 friends, one known and one unknown, and we will see what this year brings.

9. LEARN MORE.

I’m a do-er and a tasker, which has lead me to why I feel like others needs are usually more important than my own. However, as I have repeated a few times now, it has left me feeling depleted and malnourished. So I plan in learning more over the coming year. As a learning professional by trade, you would think this would come easier to me but it honestly requires habits and persistence. Reading more. Creating more. Writing more. All of these things will not only help fill my soul but keep me relevant in my career and passions.

10. BE STILL AND QUIET.

I tend to find myself busy, far too busy. Part of my nourishment is scheduling in 2018 quiet times for listening, reading, creating, writing, and reflection and enjoying the silence.

My Word for 2018: Nourish

Nourishing our health, wealth, spiritual life, emotions, physically, our home... everything. I want to work towards fostering a life-giving home that has a table full of stories, healing, and hope. I want to raise up a family that yearns to learn something new everyday. I want to nourish my mind, body, and soul more with self-care and quiet. I want to travel more, invest in music and reading, get outdoors, and tend to us as a family so that when others need us, we can give our full selfs to them. I want to cherish, foster, keep alive our family and our souls, and live in a healthy state that is provided by enough good food and nutrients (fitness, finances, creativity, health, learning, etc.). I want to nourish more.

Each January, I feel like I am anticipating the new year. I just flourish with the idea of setting goals and making a plan for the upcoming adventure that the next few months hold. I spend hours daydreaming, imagining, and predicting what life could be… the what-ifs, but in a very good, good way.

However, this year was a bit different. I am not really sure why but the idea of goals and a new year just overcame me like a rush of water. It felt like I was literally drowning. It brought more anxiety than hope and more worry than wonder. It paralyzed me and the unexpectedness of it numb me a bit if I am being honest.

I went through the motions. I checked on my last year’s goals and thought about the why behind them. I had so many successes and so much of God’s grace that was sprinkled throughout the year, which posed the question even further? Why am I so anxiety stricken and why is my heart not feeling the blessing that have been bestowed upon our family? It just did not make sense on paper what was happening in my heart.

I have been dealing with some fairly severe anxiety through this entire pregnancy and have been blaming hormones and such. While it may be some hormones, as I worked through my aspirations for the new year, I realized that it was something so much more. I needed to work on myself more. I needed to prune, tend, and ultimately, nourish my life more.

In 2016, I strived to be present through the changes of the seasons. With Ollie being added to our little family, I wanted to learn how to be more in the moment and not attempting to be in fifteen places at once. I think we are all still striving to do better at this but I feel like I made some great strides that year. In 2017, I pursued the idea of savoring. Savoring the moments and not letting them pass by without fully experiencing them. Saying more yes’s to friends, family, Ollie, Dusty, experiences, travel, opportunities… There were so many moments this year that I sat in the moment and allowed God’s grace to consume me during the simple times, the moments on the front porch learning how to kick a ball or the never-ending summer with a splash table and bathing suit.

But with both of those things, expectations also crept in. Expectations of showing up. Being present. Saying yes. Expectations of what our family should look like as leaders in our church. Expectations of what our marriage should be. Expectations of what pregnancy should be like, what a fit pregnancy should look like to other. Expectations of motherhood. Expectations of hosting and being a good friend should look like in the midst of motherhood. Expectations of having it all together, overcoming sorrow of a miscarriage, of having a stay-at-home career, travel and being still a good mother, serving others, being flexible, generous, grateful, hospitable, listening, loving… I feel like the list could go on and on.

I wrote in my Powersheets this past month about this.

It has been so obvious through the past months that we have been giving as a family more than we have been receiving. This is nobody’s fault but our own. We have responded to false expectations, expectations that we fabricated on our own. Expectations that we allowed to be present in our home. We have give in to expectations, comparisons, and guilt. We have neglected our values, souls, bodies, friendships, marriage, community, and finances and replaced them with others’, attempting to mimic theirs — assuming their way was better or we would be accepted more by mirroring their attributes. We have diluted our identities in these fabricated expectations and have withdrawn from the self-care and quiet that fills our souls. We give into connections and communities that our outside of our calling and we are not being patience in God’s providence. We need to reflect more on ourselves in the mirror. We need to make our soil at home rich again. We need to tend to our minds, bodies, and souls as a family, couple, and as individuals. We need to rediscover our purpose, remember who God made us to be as a unit and nourish that. We need to say “no” more and define better who we are so it is more clear on who we are not.

I know that for everything there is a season, but my goal of “be everything to everybody” has worn on me. My eyes and expectations for myself have been wider than my bandwidth. And I am often too busy when I long for simplicity and quiet. It has led me to be discontent, unhappy, sad, anxious, and more with the new year. As I started to write out all of the things that I wanted to do for others… well, I kept asking the same question “what about me?”

I know this may sound selfish at the surface, but I am honestly at the point where I do not know who I am anymore without taking some time for self-care. Self-care is trendy enough but when we look at the actual doing self-care, many folks don’t because of all of the expectations. Well, not this year. Not for me.

2018 is the year to NOURISH

Nourishing our health, wealth, spiritual life, emotions, physically, our home… everything. I want to work towards fostering a life-giving home that has a table full of stories, healing, and hope. I want to raise up a family that yearns to learn something new everyday. I want to nourish my mind, body, and soul more with self-care and quiet. I want to travel more, invest in music and reading, get outdoors, and tend to us as a family so that when others need us, we can give our full selfs to them. I want to cherish, foster, keep alive our family and our souls, and live in a healthy state that is provided by enough good food and nutrients (fitness, finances, creativity, health, learning, etc.). I want to nourish more.

Whoa, that’s a lot. I hope that is helpful to hear more of the background of my One Little Word for the year!! Now time to share, already picked your word for the year? Share below!!

Also, if you have not been able to sit down and figure out your year yet, I strongly recommend Val Marie’s steps to how to figure out your word for the year and tap into some of Lara Casey’s Powersheets. Both are magical and ideal take an afternoon and make this your best year yet.

25 Books in 2017

25 Books in 2017

I am so excited to share today’s post! It’s one my favorite posts that I have adopted this year that some of my favorite blogger do! ?

So let’s chat books. If you saw my list of books I wanted to read and books I actually read in 2016, you will see quite a big difference. They are all listed on my Goodreads account and the list is long. In 2016, I really attempted at reading more… and honestly, I did, but not like I use to. I just haven’t found how to read well while adulting. I use to be an avid reader. Heck, I even majored in literature for my undergraduate degree, yet… I suck at reading. I am putting myself a lofty goal out there because 1) I think it is obtainable and 2) I want to raise Ollie in a home that reads.

One of my goals is to spend more time in the presence of the Lord and part of that is reading my Bible more. I don’t want to choose books over the Bible just to meet a challenge I set for myself but I am going to incorporate Christian books to help me understand the Bible more and assist me with reading it. Dusty and I have also made a pact to read together more which we implemented into our nighttime routine this fall. It has been going well.

I also understand what I actual read and what I have on my list below may differ in 12 months from now. That’s okay. Something new will come out that will catch my eye or I’ll start reading something that I listed that just doesn’t flow with my style or likes and I’ll put it aside. I just want to continue to fill myself with words and wisdoms of others.

So, here’s what books I’d love to read this year!

Spiritual

Nothing to Prove by Jennie Allen – Why We Can Stop Trying So Hard
Essentialism by Greg McKeown
**Uninvited by Lysa TerKeurst
Looking for Lovely by Annie F. Downs – Collecting the Moments that Matter
Steadfast Love by Lauren Chandler – The Response of God to the Cries ofOur Heart
Every Bitter Thing Is Sweet by Sara Hagerty – Tasting the Goodness of God in All Things

Marriage/Family

Missional Motherhood by Gloria Furman – The Everyday Ministry of Motherhood in the Grand Plan of God
The Meaning of Marriage by Tim Keller – Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God
You and Me Forever by Francis and Lisa Chan
Parenting by Paul David Tripp – 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family
Grace-Based Parenting by Tim Kimmel
Love Unending by Becky Thompson – Rediscovering Your Marriage in the Midst of Motherhood
The Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey – A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness

Business

Creativity, Inc. by Ed Catmull – Overcoming the Unseen Forces That Stand in the Way of True Inspiration
The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg – Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business
Make It Stick by Peter C. Brown
How We Learn by Benedict Carey – The Surprising Truth About When, Where, and Why It Happens
Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman
The 4-Hour Workweek by Timothy Ferriss – Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich

Community/Lifestyle

Next Door as it is in Heaven by Lance Ford – Living Out God’s Kingdom in Your Neighborhood
**Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist – Leaving Behind Frantic for a Simpler, More Soulful Way of Living
Breaking Busy by Alli Worthington – How to Find Peace and Purpose in a World of Crazy
The Year of Living Danishly by Helen Russell – Uncovering the Secrets of the World’s Happiest Country
Chasing Slow by Erin Loechner – Courage to Journey Off the Beaten Path
Dinner: A Love Story by Jenny Rosenstrach – It All Begins at the Family Table
Life in Community by Dustin Willis – Joining Together to Display the Gospel

Extras
The Magnolia Story by Chip Gaines, Joanna Gaines

Now your turn!! I want to hear what is on your list!!

**I started reading a few in 2016, but haven’t finished yet so I am including them in my list. I cannot wait to make 2017 the year of reading.

my word of 2016 :: present

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This year will not be about goals. This year will not be about checking the box. This year will not be about the calendar. Now I am sure that the year will include goals. It will include boxes that need to be checked. It will have a calendar full of joyous events, travels, meetings, dinner dates… but it will not be about that.

I spend so much of my time focusing on the past. What went well, what didn’t. Times that were great, and times that were not the best. I reevaluate. I remember. I reminisce. This super good to do; do not hear that it is not. I love looking at old pictures, thinking about memories of happy times and sad times, and figuring out how something could have been better and planning for the next time.

But in the times that I am not thinking about the past, I am focused on the future. The planning. The expecting. The anticipating. Looking at when I can fit this in, or that in. Looking toward the next step or the next moment.

I struggle with the present. I struggle with the now.

I thought long and hard about what I want 2016 to be about and God is just telling me, screaming at me, to be present. Enjoy now. Cherish the smallest moments. Rejoice in the large ones. Want nothing more than what is in front of me. Stop worrying about perfection or achievements or something that is tied neatly with a bow…

Being present is so much more.

This does not mean that I do not want to have goals, that I do not want to grow and learn and curate new things. I want to continue reading. I want to continue striving for more community. I want to be more active and healthy than ever. Of course, I do. But I do not want the core of 2016 to be about that.

If the calendar gets too full, I want to empty it to enjoy the present. If we get to wrapped up in the events or the checklist, I want to throw them away. I want to allow space for those small moments to happen. I want to create intentionality to absorb joy in the now.

So it’s official! My word for 2016 is “present”. Have you picked a word for 2016?? I would absolutely love to hear it!!