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Summer Bucket List with an Infant

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If you remember way back in January, I chose a word to live by in 2017 — Savor. It is a daily reminder to myself that I need to slow down, pursue less, and enjoy the moment. Savoring isn’t about making the most of the year in a more is more type of way. Savoring is more about sitting and dwelling on the moment, specially to appreciate it.

To savor is to have intentionality with time. To see what is happening and make a mental, physical, and emotional decision to enjoy. To collect the moments in time that are occurring right in front of me and allow myself to receive the happiness it provides. To delight in my child’s laughter and find pleasure in the warmth of a hug from my husband.

I love lists. I make them whenever is possible; however, I almost stayed away from a summer bucket list. I did not want to push the calendar full this summer. I did not want to cram ourselves with unrealistic expectations or desires that inevitably we would fall short. But then I remember that the little things that I can savor in can make our summer and I want them to evolve around three things: community, water, and food.

I did not come up with this on my own honestly. I stumbled upon a Today Show clip which lead me to this article and of course, it was the brilliant idea of one of my favorite author’s, Jessica Turner. But who cares? I love the idea… and although Ollie is not old enough yet to shout out his requests, I can ensure that our summer will be great and we can do things to make this an amazing time to savor. So here is our summer bucket list.

  1. Play in the sprinkler
  2. Splash in the pool
  3. Wear some shades
  4. Enjoy some ice cream
  5. Go to the park
  6. Catch fireflies
  7. Look at the stars
  8. Visit the zoo
  9. Color with sidewalk chalk
  10. Host a neighborhood barbecue
  11. Be amazed by fireworks
  12. Plant a garden
  13. Splash in a puddle
  14. Go to the drive in theater
  15. Visit a farm
  16. Blow bubbles
  17. Go on a hike
  18. Celebrate Ollie turning one!
  19. Throw an outdoor dinner party
  20. Enjoy a backyard campfire

Summer Bucket List with an Infant

Savoring Friendships

Savoring Friendships

If I was honest with myself, I am terrible at this. I do really well with the “wide” friendships. Those that have a surface level connection and multiple touch points throughout the year. Just enough contact to keep the friendships alive. However, I am not so great at the “deep” friendships, not in my adult years.

Yes, I have those friendships that are completely rooted in my childhood and I am so ever thankful for those. But because I had basically the same friends from kindergarten on, I did not really have to make many new friends throughout the year. Really the same eight girls and I ran around for years together. We graduated college and half of us had the exact same first semester college schedule. I have a friendship or two outside of this group, but until my twenties, I did not need much more. We alternated who was “best” friends with who and we traveled together, cheered on our sports team together, and took all the same classes from essentially middle school until graduation. We studied together, cried together, and laughed together.

A good chunk of that core group still lives in my home town and still hangs out, but since I live miles and miles away, I have learned that I am just not that great at making that type of friendships again. The one that is okay without your make up, pops over whenever, helps you clean your house and do your dishes kind of friend. I am still learning what this looks like to build these types of friendships.

I think Lysa TerKeurst said it best when talking about how adult friendships should look in my head…

I want the equation to be: make a friend, keep a friend. Live in a blissful place of fun connection. See eye to eye. Believe the best. Get along. Be nice. Collect hilarious inside jokes. And fight for each other always.

Wouldn’t it be awesome in adult friends looked like this? Especially without much work?!

I remember a few years ago just begging and pleading with God to give me a good core group of girlfriends. I had friends but there were scattered. Some scattered by distance, some scattered by just their stage of life. We didn’t align anymore. We would hang out and chat occasionally but nobody dropped by, nobody just hung out and watched TV at my house anymore. Through those prayers, I did find a “yes” from God. Kind of. I do not necessarily have a solid core group… and still nobody really just pops in to our home, but He has graciously given me some girls that I can wrap my arms around and cry to if I need. He has shown me His love by giving me ladies that will watch my baby when I need them to and hang out on a Saturday morning with Food Network and crafts.

Savoring these friendships is what I want to do in 2017. I want to savor my time with them. I want to soak up all that our friendships have to offer. I want to sit in their presence and appreciate every moment I get with them. I want to invest in them more and love them 1000 times over.

One Little Word: Savor

In 2017, I will enjoy or appreciate (something pleasant) completely, especially by dwelling on it. In 2017, I will focus on the moments collecting in front of me. In 2017, I will remember the words that are writing my story. In 2017, I will savor. • • • #olw #onelittleword #onelittleword2017 #collectmomentsnotthings #savor #savorthemoments

I know I am a little late to the party for my 2017 One Little Word, but here we go…

A single word can be a powerful thing. It can be the ripple in the pond that changes everything. It can be sharp and biting or rich and soft and slow.

In 2014, I began a tradition of choosing one word for myself each January – a word to focus on, pray on, and reflect upon as I go about my daily life. My words have included present, yes, and educate. These words have each become a part of my life in one way or another. They’ve been imbedded into who I am and into who I’m becoming. They’ve been what I’ve needed most before I even knew I needed them. They’ve helped me to breathe deeper, to see clearer, to navigate challenges, and to grow.

Savor

Savor means to enjoy or appreciate something pleasant completely, especially by dwelling on it. In 2017, I will savor. I will enjoy completely. I will focus on the moments collecting in front of me and receive the happiness that it provides. I will collect the words that are writing my story for good. I will delight in my child’s laughter and find pleasure in the warmth of a hug from my husband. I will continue to work on being present as I did in 2016… but with a slightly different twist, with more smiles and joy.

Over the next few weeks, I will walk you through how this looks… with my husband, with my son, with my work, and with my friends. I feel like savor could look so differently from day to day. Maybe one day I just enjoy my cup of coffee and 7am conference call. The next I giggle with my son during bath time. Regardless, I just let life pass by too quickly and do not appreciate all the joy that it has to offer. This year I am going to try to savor those moments… the happy moments.

25 Books in 2017

25 Books in 2017

I am so excited to share today’s post! It’s one my favorite posts that I have adopted this year that some of my favorite blogger do! 😉

So let’s chat books. If you saw my list of books I wanted to read and books I actually read in 2016, you will see quite a big difference. They are all listed on my Goodreads account and the list is long. In 2016, I really attempted at reading more… and honestly, I did, but not like I use to. I just haven’t found how to read well while adulting. I use to be an avid reader. Heck, I even majored in literature for my undergraduate degree, yet… I suck at reading. I am putting myself a lofty goal out there because 1) I think it is obtainable and 2) I want to raise Ollie in a home that reads.

One of my goals is to spend more time in the presence of the Lord and part of that is reading my Bible more. I don’t want to choose books over the Bible just to meet a challenge I set for myself but I am going to incorporate Christian books to help me understand the Bible more and assist me with reading it. Dusty and I have also made a pact to read together more which we implemented into our nighttime routine this fall. It has been going well.

I also understand what I actual read and what I have on my list below may differ in 12 months from now. That’s okay. Something new will come out that will catch my eye or I’ll start reading something that I listed that just doesn’t flow with my style or likes and I’ll put it aside. I just want to continue to fill myself with words and wisdoms of others.

So, here’s what books I’d love to read this year!

Spiritual

Nothing to Prove by Jennie Allen – Why We Can Stop Trying So Hard
Essentialism by Greg McKeown
**Uninvited by Lysa TerKeurst
Looking for Lovely by Annie F. Downs – Collecting the Moments that Matter
Steadfast Love by Lauren Chandler – The Response of God to the Cries ofOur Heart
Every Bitter Thing Is Sweet by Sara Hagerty – Tasting the Goodness of God in All Things

Marriage/Family

Missional Motherhood by Gloria Furman – The Everyday Ministry of Motherhood in the Grand Plan of God
The Meaning of Marriage by Tim Keller – Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God
You and Me Forever by Francis and Lisa Chan
Parenting by Paul David Tripp – 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family
Grace-Based Parenting by Tim Kimmel
Love Unending by Becky Thompson – Rediscovering Your Marriage in the Midst of Motherhood
The Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey – A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness

Business

Creativity, Inc. by Ed Catmull – Overcoming the Unseen Forces That Stand in the Way of True Inspiration
The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg – Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business
Make It Stick by Peter C. Brown
How We Learn by Benedict Carey – The Surprising Truth About When, Where, and Why It Happens
Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman
The 4-Hour Workweek by Timothy Ferriss – Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich

Community/Lifestyle

Next Door as it is in Heaven by Lance Ford – Living Out God’s Kingdom in Your Neighborhood
**Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist – Leaving Behind Frantic for a Simpler, More Soulful Way of Living
Breaking Busy by Alli Worthington – How to Find Peace and Purpose in a World of Crazy
The Year of Living Danishly by Helen Russell – Uncovering the Secrets of the World’s Happiest Country
Chasing Slow by Erin Loechner – Courage to Journey Off the Beaten Path
Dinner: A Love Story by Jenny Rosenstrach – It All Begins at the Family Table
Life in Community by Dustin Willis – Joining Together to Display the Gospel

Extras
The Magnolia Story by Chip Gaines, Joanna Gaines

Now your turn!! I want to hear what is on your list!!

**I started reading a few in 2016, but haven’t finished yet so I am including them in my list. I cannot wait to make 2017 the year of reading.

Pursuit among being Present

Last week I shared that 2016 is going to be the year that I strive to be more present.

To me, being present is not about sitting still for an entire year without goals or dreams or progress. It is about having a year that is not focused on the goals above the now.

I live in a household of movement. My husband would proclaim on any occasion that I am restless and unable to be still. I always am on the go, have things to do, and am focused on my checklist more than one should be. That is why learning how to be present will probably take a life, not merely a year…

Choosing “present” as my word of 2016 scared me. I thought that I would have to put all of my dreams on hold. I assumed that I would not be able to pursue anything, grow in any way. But God has clearly called us to grow with Him and each other every day. It has given me such a peace to remember that I am still able to pursue Him, pursue others, and pursue myself while learning how to be present.

So with being present, goals can still exist. Checklists can still remain. My day can just not be all about them.

For the month of January, I am going to pursue among being present.

Pursue Him ::
Savor – Spending every day in the Word. Some days will be more than others; I will just be honest and open there, but I got Shauna Niequist’s Savor daily devotional last year and could not wait to crack it open January 1.

Pursue Others ::
Date Night – We use to be so good about date night, and then we bought a house, got busy, and our calendars filled up. Structured date night is so important to our relationship. We even budgeted it into our 2016 financial calendar. Yah!

Pursue Myself ::
Fitness – Fitness is never about tomorrow. It is always about today. My buddy, Meranda, has really helped me jump start the new year with challenging me on Jawbone’s UP app to a step challenge and it has really got me thinking about how fitness fits into being present. Instead of putting it off until tomorrow or not feeling like we have enough time right now, I want to be present and go to the gym or do a workout routine today.

Pleasure – This really should be more “self-care” but I was listening to a podcast earlier today by Jess Lively and she said that self-care, for her, seemed such a like a chore; “pleasure” had much more energy around it. And I agree. To pursue pleasure time with myself, I want to take a bath. It sounds simple, but I always dream about it and never do it. I long for 30 minutes with a Lush bath bomb by myself and never sit still enough to be present with myself.

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my word of 2016 :: present

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This year will not be about goals. This year will not be about checking the box. This year will not be about the calendar. Now I am sure that the year will include goals. It will include boxes that need to be checked. It will have a calendar full of joyous events, travels, meetings, dinner dates… but it will not be about that.

I spend so much of my time focusing on the past. What went well, what didn’t. Times that were great, and times that were not the best. I reevaluate. I remember. I reminisce. This super good to do; do not hear that it is not. I love looking at old pictures, thinking about memories of happy times and sad times, and figuring out how something could have been better and planning for the next time.

But in the times that I am not thinking about the past, I am focused on the future. The planning. The expecting. The anticipating. Looking at when I can fit this in, or that in. Looking toward the next step or the next moment.

I struggle with the present. I struggle with the now.

I thought long and hard about what I want 2016 to be about and God is just telling me, screaming at me, to be present. Enjoy now. Cherish the smallest moments. Rejoice in the large ones. Want nothing more than what is in front of me. Stop worrying about perfection or achievements or something that is tied neatly with a bow…

Being present is so much more.

This does not mean that I do not want to have goals, that I do not want to grow and learn and curate new things. I want to continue reading. I want to continue striving for more community. I want to be more active and healthy than ever. Of course, I do. But I do not want the core of 2016 to be about that.

If the calendar gets too full, I want to empty it to enjoy the present. If we get to wrapped up in the events or the checklist, I want to throw them away. I want to allow space for those small moments to happen. I want to create intentionality to absorb joy in the now.

So it’s official! My word for 2016 is “present”. Have you picked a word for 2016?? I would absolutely love to hear it!!

30before30 thursday :: travel abroad

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I have always had a deep passion for culture. I believe that culture is something can connect us, help us understand, aid in peace. If there is a week that goes by without an episode of Anthony Bourdain on the television or an article read around trafficking in India, I would be ashamed of myself. I love to be connected and I love learning.

More so today than ever, I believe it is extremely important to understand the differences and similarities in individuals across the world. Business is conducted in a more profitable way, friendships become stronger, and difficulties and hardships are risen out of despair because people support one another regardless of the differences.

#bahorichhoneymoon

Traveling abroad has been on my bucket list for years. I have multiple journal entries written in my teenage and college years about getting a passport, selling everything, and throwing a dart at a world map and just going…

Of course, my Americanized-self always talked me out of this, believing that I would never meet husband, land a dream career, purchase a house, and have 2.5 kids and a puppy if I did such a thing (and that was my definition of success). By time I was 25, I had friends that had traveled 25 countries in 25 years, and I could not even manage to make it to one. So, on the list, it went. I had to experience somewhere before I turned 30.

I am cannot say in 100% confidence that I would have accomplished my goal without my dream honeymoon. We won it! Four days, three nights in the Rivera Maya in Mexico helped me accomplish my goal. A passport was purchased, a plane was flown, and we made it to Mexico and back alive. My husband was slightly timid about going out of the country and returning with all of our organs, so the push of a free trip helped open a lot of doors for future trips. My Spanish lessons helped tremendously and I asked a lot of questions about the culture that was surrounding us.

#mexico #bahorichhoneymoon

Since then, I have had the wonderful opportunity to travel to Spain with my previous company. It was such a different experience than just honeymooning on the beach. Even more so, it gives me the burning desire to go more, see more, learn more about everything I can. And I plan to.

30before30 thursday :: be my own boss

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Something I always wanted to do was to be my own boss. I can picture myself having a simple store front, with cute decor and fabulous design. Eclectic, rustic and adorable. I haven’t decided if I would rather want to have a typical 9-5 shop or merely an office where I can make appointments and design on my downtime. I guess it would reflect directly on what I do.

A few years ago, I took it upon myself to do more of what I like, which is really anything creative. I made it a point to take more pictures, imposed myself on several opportunities of babies being born and pregnancy, and even created my own photography label, hb fotographie. As I will begin to share some of those shots soon, I also wanted to share my print design.

Etys is a lovely place for people to start their business with minimal start-up costs. Paying per month, per post, I have continue to make a profit and sell my designs. I know there is so much room to grow in this area, and really I see my photography excelling over the years beyond my print design. I have no formal training in design, photoshop, anything really. But I like it. I enjoy seeing my invitations re-pinned on Pinterest; I smile every time an order comes in. I delight in knowing that I am crafting something for that perfect shower or party for somebody else.

And as for right now, I haven’t “become my own boss” enough to quit my day job or open that store front that I want someday. However, it’s enough to be able to say that I control my prices, my inventory, and my customer care. I feel like that’s enough and I’m proud of it.

As time went on and some other things have came my way, I feel like taking ownership on my role within my current job is seriously something to be proud of. I am an entrepreneur within my own role. I create what it should look like, what initiatives I go after, and who are my customers — but without the stress of a steady paycheck.

Do you want to be your own boss? What does success look like for you?

30before30 thursday :: complete an entire project.365

I’m not saying that I don’t have repetitiveness, nor are all the pictures wonderful. However, I finished a project.365 at the end of 2011 which means that it is the first thing that I officially completed on my thirty before thirty project. I miss it too and I have really considered starting it again another year down the line.

Project 365 requires one to take a picture every single day for an entire year. Some do it of their kids; some do it of themselves. I took pictures of my life that was evolving around me.

2011 was the year that I fell in love with my husband, the year that I started graduate school, the year that I gained direction and purpose. Some days were more difficult than others, and weeks would pass that looked super repetitive, snapping pictures of beer glasses and blue polos from Best Buy. I learned a lot about my lifestyle from photographing it everyday and a lot about photography. I would encourage this project from anybody, not just photography lovers. It is inspiring, eye-opening, and wonderful to see completed.

To look at my project.365 product, hop over to Instagram where I posted everything back in 2011! Crazy how long ago that was.

hello august.

August. I cannot believe it is here. Just a month ago, I was sharing my vision of Bahorich Abode with you. It has only solidified and my wheels are turning. God’s words are strong and direct about where He wants me to go, and where I am focused. But let’s look back for a second, and remember how to…

As for August… well, I was not going to write up August goals. I did not really have any specific goals and I believed making them up for the sake of writing them was just silly.

But as the day has gone by, I thought of some things that really are motivating. Focused. Intentional. God-centered. So I assume I would share them with you.

#4weekfitness. My husband and I are heading into the gym all month. Although summertime is typically easy to be fit… or easier, our motivation is lost somewhere in between our commute and renovation. The gym has never really been easier for us to go, but 5 a.m. is never quite “ideal”. If I cannot go to the gym, I give up for the day. Ring in the towel. Start again the next day… ha! So we made a pact to due four straight weeks of fitness. It could be a video, or an evening active at the park, or even the gym… but for four weeks we will exercise. Also, (bonus) in about five weeks, we are heading to the lake with our dear friends for Labor Day weekend. If you want to follow my fitness journey, hop on over to my Twitter.

Throw a dinner party. Our house is not near complete, but with renovations coming to a close on our main floor, I am getting antsy to have some people over. I never want our house to be about perfection anyways. Being present over perfect is so much more important. So… there may not be outlet covers on everything and our bookshelves may not be built. But there are dining room chairs and a table. A working stove and a back porch. That’s really all you need.

Read. In the past month, I have purchased more books than I really want to admit. I have been reading a lot this year, but to be honest, my Amazon Prime-ing was on full speed ahead. With the desire to just be intentional with my life, habits, and community… and my love for hospitality and dinner parties, I really just need to get my butt in gear and pick up a new book. I am hoping to get through three, but two would be okay as well. Here’s my reading order: The Good Neighbor Cookbook, From Tablet to Table: Where Community Is Found and Identity Is Formed, Organized Simplicity: The Clutter-Free Approach to Intentional Living, How to Eat: The Pleasures and Principles of Good Food, Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less, and The 4-Hour Workweek. Okay, I know that is a lot… But I have to start somewhere, right?

On top of that, we have our first ever membership meeting at our church plant! Whoot whoot! Two weddings. Three community/church activities. And the OutCry concert! Such a busy month. What are your goals for this month?

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